WHY USE AN ESCORT?

By Mark Charles, A Professional Escort from Australia.

With permission from Mark Charles for RBA,
He is no longer escorting. However, when it was in his time, he was one of innovative & well educated gay escorts in Melbourne we have found.

NOTE: This is an adaptation of a guide that I found on the web. I do believe that it could be especially helpful for first-timers, as prior knowledge will, I hope, give you more confidence, and make you more comfortable. It is written in the first person, and has been adapted from "How to Use Escort Services - A Men's Guide" by Marc Perkel, who himself is a regular user of escort services. [please note that the I have changed the word 'female' to 'male' as Marc was writing this about his experiences with female escorts - and most of the content and etiquette section has been adjusted accordingly, as well as to acknowledge the fact that prostitution has been legalised in the State of Victoria.]

INTRODUCTION

There are a lot of things they don't teach you in school, and one of them is how to use an escort service. Somehow society seems to think that men should just know how to do this. Why they make this assumption is beyond me. The truth is that most guys don't have a clue about what to do in this situation, so I'm going to tell you what I've learned -- and what the pros have taught me.

Hiring a sex professional is the same as hiring any other professional, like a doctor, lawyer, or auto mechanic. You pay them money for a service. It doesn't matter what the service is: if you're nice to the professional, you generally get a better result than if you aren't. I treat sex professionals the same way I treat other professionals I hire. And like other professionals in my life, these men treat me as a valued customer and may even become friends of mine. They look forward to seeing me again, the same way any other professional likes to see their good clients come around. So let's start at the beginning. Maybe you've never called an escort service before, or maybe you have but didn't have a good time. What I hope to do here is give you a step by step guidebook, telling you exactly what to do so that you can get the most out of your escort experience.

WHY USE AN ESCORT?

Escort services offer a variety of companionship, from just someone to talk with to someone to have sex with. These men make a living at their jobs just like men who have other jobs to. So, yes, they are doing it for the money. But that's just their occupation. When you hire a mechanic to fix your car, the mechanic is doing it for the money too. It's the same thing. Your mechanic may be your friend as well and he may enjoy working on your car because you're a good customer. The same kind of relationship can be established with your escort.

If you become a "regular," you will get to know each other and know what you like to do together -- and you will enjoy it more. A lot of men have a real mental barrier about having to "pay for it." This is an artificial barrier because there's nothing wrong with paying for sex -- and there are a lot of advantages to doing so. Paying for it doesn't make you any less of a man. In fact, if you've never tried escorts before, you'll find that the experience is probably different than what you've been led to think it is. And when you realize how it really works, you'll look at it in a very different light.

Free sex isn't really free. In order to get a man to have free sex with you, you have to find someone who is attracted to you and wants to have sex with you. For most of us, this takes a lot of work. If you go after a one night stand, then you're having sex with a stranger, just as you would with an escort. The man you pick up for a one night stand is not really fucking you. He's just horny and you're just a penis provider. If you want to keep fucking him, then you're going to have to develop some kind of relationship with him.

If you start a relationship, you run into one of the biggest problems with free sex: You both have to want it at the same time. You can't just get it when you want it. And then you have to deal with "where is this relationship going," and how you feel about monogamy and marriage (Which I call "doing the "M" word").

Maybe you are looking for a permanent relationship. You're lonely as hell and you want that special someone to settle down with so you can have cats and live happily ever after. The problem is that you haven't gotten laid in so long that when you go out on a date you can't control yourself and you come on too quick. This messes things up and you get rejected and you're just that much more love-starved and depressed the next time.

An escort can help break the cycle of rejection. You get laid a few times, feel better about yourself, and when you go out on a date you don't feel you have to get laid. You can take the time to let the relationship develop and have a better chance of finding "true love" than if you weren't seeing and escort. And you may have learned a few tricks in the mean time that make you a better lover and contribute to the relationship. In fact, being with an escort may enhance your life so much that you get more free sex, have better sex, and are so attractive to other men that you will find your one true love, if that's what you're looking for.

Once you get over the "paying for it" barrier, you'll realize that it's really a bargain. What you get is good sex with a guy who generally is a lot better at it than the average "civilian", without the cost and complications of free sex. These guys have been with a lot of men and they know things about sex that you can learn. If you talk to most pros, they'll tell you that the average guy doesn't have a clue. And if you're willing to put some ego aside and learn, these guys can teach you things that will impress the hell out of civilians. So being with an escort is a great opportunity to sharpen your style.

Maybe you just got divorced or dumped and you're hurting and need someone to be with. Being with an escort is a great way to recover from a lost relationship. No, it isn't the same as "true love," but it can make you feel a lot better about yourself and help build back your confidence so that you're functional and attractive to guys again.

Convenience is another big advantage with escorts. When I want to get laid, I want it now. With escorts I can make a phone call and be having sex in about an hour with my choice from a variety of different guys. I can actually pick a guy who suits my mood. You can't do that in a relationship. Let me explain about "variety." This isn't just a matter of what the guys look like. It's about personality and style. Sometimes I choose an escort who will give me slow, romantic sex with plenty of kissing, sweet talk, and affection. But sometimes I like hot, erotic, animal instinct sex and another escort is better at that. Sometimes I'm in the mood for someone who is just pretty. Sometimes I want good conversation and sometimes I want no conversation.

What is an Escort? Movies and television depict prostitutes in a few limited and unrealistic ways, mostly to the detriment of the women and men working as escort. There's the drug-addicted street walker standing on a dark and dangerous corner with a black pimp who beats her hiding in the shadows. Then there's the whore who inhabits a giant Victorian brothel where a guy plays piano in the parlor and the women are slaves to an obese madame and secretly hate their work and their customers. Such stereotyped situations may exist, but they are not the whole picture.

In an attempt to foster a false sense of "drama," the entertainment and news media almost never give a positive slant to prostitution, and for some reason, they rarely present any images at all of escort services. One reason for this may be that there is very little "drama" in an escort service. It's simply a business. Using an escort service means that you are dealing with an agency, just like any other service agency. You don't pick up a street walker and you don't go to a whore house. Instead, you call and arrange for companionship, and someone comes to your home or hotel room and spends time with you in your space. You get the advantage of not having to go anywhere and of being in your own home where you're most comfortable -- or in your motel room if you are on a business trip or you're married and can't do it in the home. It's that simple.