1.
Listen to your instincts. To quote
the old Spider-Man comics, always trust your "spider sense."
If at any time you feel wary about your medical, physical, or legal
safety, decline to meet the escort. If you're in the middle of the
encounter, do whatever you have to do to get out of the situation
safely. It's better for you to be out a few hundred bucks than to
risk the situation becoming dangerous.
2.
Always talk to him first. Judge the
escort based on how he acts on the phone. A good escort will be friendly,
helpful, and should put you at ease.
3.
Know that escorting is legally dangerous. You
may feel confident the escort is legitimate, but he has no such assurances
about you. While you may legitimately want to know what type of sex
you can buy, he may be worried you're an undercover officer. There
is no good way around this dilemma, except to gain the escort's trust
on the phone. Instead of asking him what sexual services he provides,
tell him what sort of sex you're looking for.
4.
Be specific. If you only want an
escort who is 18 years old, a nonsmoker, has a pierced dick, or is
skilled at bondage, make it very clear in advance. Even if the escort
advertises himself as having a tech-inch dick, make it clear if you
want ten inches and are not willing to settle for half-an-inch less.
5.
Specify unusual requests.
Most escorts do what you see in your typical
gay porn movie. If you want to do something that involves a fetish
or is a bit more exotic, make the request clear in advance. You may
find it an easy and reasonable request to ask that an escort dominate
you, but many escorts find it an unduly stressful and unpleasant experiences.
It is also a good idea to confirm the basics, such as kissing or wanting
to fuck the escort.
6.
Avoid negotiation. Most
escorts will quote an hourly rate. Although some will lower their
rates if you attempt to bargain, doing so will typically encourage
the escort to be less receptive to your needs during the meeting.
From his perspective you're being cheap, so why should he go out of
his way to treat you like a VIP? If your money is in short supply,
you may want to ask the escort if he provides erotic massage. Typically
this involves massage and masturbation rather than "full service,"
but costs half as much as a typical escort's price.
*NOT
APPLICABLE TO AUSTRALIA* 7. Ask if he "parties".
"Party" is slang for using drugs,
so this question is a great way to screen out any escort that enjoys
being under the influence. If he replies that he does not or does
not understand the question, you are probably fine. Of course, knowledgeable
escorts will suspect you do drugs at this point, so you may need to
assure him that you don't.
8.
Ask for a recent picture. Look at
multiple pictures of the escort, and ask the escort if he has changed
his look since they were taken. This is most easily done on the Internet.
Good escorts usually change their pictures at least once every year
(Really vain escorts change them once every month).
9.
Pay Now or Pay Later? Ask the escort
if he requires payment up front, or if he will accept the money at
the end of the encounter. In prostitution circles, typically only
the less trusting and inexperienced escorts require payment up front,
although agency employees, hustlers, and male strippers may do so.
If an escort says he requires his money up front, consider that a
warning sign that he may not be very good at what he does.
10.
Do your research. Visit
the Male Escort Review website.
It's badly in need of a graphic designer, but the content is pure
gold. It contains several thousand reviews of male escorts and their
services from around the world. Additionally it has a message section
where you can ask about escorts who do not have reviews posted. If
you find the website to be useful, consider making a donation to the
site. The webmaster runs the entire site on a volunteer basis, and
pays a considerable amount of his own money to do so.
